When I was in middle school, yes, middle school, my dad gave me an old book they had lying around the house called, "The Birth Order Book." He thought I'd find it interesting to see what a typical first born child I am and how my brother fit the second born to a "t." The book had a real impact on the way I view myself, others, and even compatibility between people. (The book told me I was stupid to fall in love with a first born because we'd struggle with power and control way too much and that I'd be better matched with either a second born or a last child attention seeker ..???!!) I maintain that the book is wrong and that I'm just fine with another first born; Steve says the same ... just prove the stats wrong (how like a stubborn, controlling first born!) ANYWAY, my little Benjamin has a typical first born older sister. She's controlling, demanding, obsessive compulsive, and very stubborn. We're working on balancing the positives in these qualities with plenty of the negatives. BUT while we're doing that, Benjamin is forming/exhibiting his little personality. So far, he's filling in the role of the "opposite" of the first born quite well. He is easy going, relaxed (sometimes so easy going that I find him still silent in his crib, not asking to get up even though he's been awake for 20-30 minutes ... he's fine just waiting until I remember him) and content. He LOVES attention, but if my attention is elsewhere, he's okay by himself (MOST of the time).
Enter: Video evidence I was trying to take a video of Ben's fantastic job in his exersaucer, balancing very well, having excellent head/neck control ... meanwhile, little miss-don't stop paying attention to me has to intervene. Despite the fact that she never shows her face on camera, you can see, immediately, the life little Benny leads. :) The whole time, he just smiles and keeps demonstrating how good he is while Kayleigh tries, very hard, to pull Mommy away ...