Benny holds his head

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We started bringing out the Bumbo for Kayleigh to use when she was a few days over her 3 month mark. (I have a picture of her in the Bumbo with her Valentine's cards). Yesterday, Benjamin was doing such a good job with his head, that I thought I'd give it a try. Little did I know that (though I probably should have suspected) that my little man would want to sit all day long. His head is not nearly strong enough for that .. he's good for about 10 minutes at a time and then he needs a break. BUT he's not content to simply lay on the floor anymore. He wants to be held up, or sat up. He LOVES this new skill. I snapped a few of him, looking all proud. [caption id="attachment_442" align="aligncenter" width="640" caption="Hoping Big Sister will notice how cool I am!"][/caption]

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And JUST in case, I wasn't paying attention to her before, Kayleigh decided that I needed to remember her too. Since Benny got all these pictures taken of him because he sat in the Bumbo, Kayleigh did the same, and promptly said, "Momma? Picture? CHEESE!!"

[caption id="attachment_444" align="aligncenter" width="640" caption="Reminding Mommy that she's still a baby too!"][/caption]


"More Dideo"

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Kayleigh loves herself. I mean, really, really loves herself. She loves seeing herself in pictures, but she ESPECIALLY love seeing herself on video. Whenever I'm sitting around doing nothing (or so she perceives it to be), she asks, "Momma, Dideo???" When I don't immediately respond by grabbing my iPhone, she will specify the video, "Momma, K slide dideo?" or "K sand ... K sand dideo." If she gets really desperate, she will grab my phone herself and attempt to find the videos. (She hasn't mastered that yet). If you're ever around my little one, and you happen to want to take video ... be sure you have the capability to show her afterwards. She will perform just about any trick for the camera, but she MUST be able to see it immediately. What would she have done in MY day and age when NO screens were affixed to video cameras ... :) hahahah Don't answer that, I know ... I know ... :) Anyway, here's "K Slide...." for your viewing pleasure. Kayleigh Slide at Maranatha

And by way of accountability - my first week of 10K training synopsis: 2 days on elliptical at 30 and 35 minutes respectively 1 - 3 mile run 1600 situps/bicycles/leg lifts/crunches 3 days off for serious recovery :) Total weight loss: 0 lbs.


Cousin-friends

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In keeping with embarrassing people we love (see "we miss our big Sis"), I thought I'd continue with a few other people who have really come to mean a great deal to my kids. Auntie Alaina and Cousin Ryan have been weekly playdates since Ryan was ... ohhh maybe about 3 months old. So, Ben's age, probably ... The kids have quite a bit of space between them for these playdates to really be about "playing" for them. (At least right now). As soon as Ryan starts walking (I'm guessing 1 month more, tops!), they will be totally about the kids playing together. BUT they've been an amazing reprieve from the lack of adult conversation the stay at home mommy gets on an average day. Alaina has become a GOOD friend, and someone I know I can trust and count on. Plus, I love being able to watch my nephew grow up with his cousins. I pray they'll stay close and that God will turn them into fast friends! Kayleigh has been saying Ryan's name since about ... oh ... April. But, she's been a little slower with Auntie. Just last week, my heart smiled because, without being prompted, she walked up to Alaina, said, "Auntie ... come help!" And she led Alaina over to the big exercise ball in the corner. I want my kids to love their family and feel comfortable asking them for help, so this made my heart smile :). Thanks Auntie Alaina for loving my kids so much :) ...

Here's a few photos (in addition to the one posted on 'Speechless Saturday') from the last playdate. Thanks to Auntie Alaina for sending them our way.

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Thanks Auntie Alaina and Ryan for all of the fun! See you Thursday; I think it's time to swim again! :)


We miss our big sis ...

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At the risk of completely embarrassing her, I'm going to dedicate this blog post to my children's "big sister." No, Kayleigh IS my first born, but my children do have a great "big sister." Almost 5 years ago, at "Meet the Teacher Night" at KCMS an energetic, 13 year old flew across the room (quite literally), landed on top of a table, and practically shouted, "I'm SO excited that I got you for a teacher!" Young or old, all teachers love hearing that (even if they don't show it). From that moment on, I had an inkling that this young lady was going to be special. I didn't know just what the Lord had planned, but He's been good. After an amazing year in the 8th grade, getting to know Bri, I wasn't quite sure I was ready to say, "Goodbye and Good luck" just yet. Fortunately, she was pretty committed to keeping me in her life too. Through 6 a.m. tennis lessons at the YMCA, random drive by/run bys at the house, and countless text messages, we made it clear we were making this stick. As my life changed dramatically since we met, (the birth of two children did quite a bit to my free time) Bri stuck with us ... she just revised her expectations of what our friendship has become. It's not just about us hanging out, but about her becoming a mentor for my babies too. (That and the world's greatest house/kitty sitter ... what 17 year old cleans for free???!!!)

We'll be very excited when Bri gets home from her work trip so we can get back to our weekly playdates. Kayleigh and I had to have a talk yesterday about where Bri was because 10 days is the longest we've been without seeing "Bi Bi" in about as long as Kayleigh's been able to recognize her presence. So, any day now would be great :) ....

Here's a few of my favorites of our big sis:

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[caption id="attachment_424" align="alignnone" width="300" caption="And with Benjamin - 1 day old"][/caption]

AND ...  with us on vacation for a day long visit

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I look back at that first encounter (and like so many others that God places in our lives), didn't realize the weight of it until I look back, nearly 5 years later and smile.


Like Only My Daddy Can ...

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I think it's amazing how one little being can have so many preferences. This might be characteristic of just Benjamin because Kayleigh was not in the least bit particular. Benny has his definite preferences. In fact, he's been so specific since birth that sometimes he refuses to take a bottle from anyone other than Mommy ... Whether it's his ability to smell mom's distinct scent, or just his stubborn refusal to have itEXACTLY the right way, he makes his preferences known. Benjamin also spits up, constantly ... big buckets full of spit. I do about 3 onesies/outfits a day for him and just as many per day for ME. When I put him up on the shoulder to burp him the "traditional" way, I have to quickly cradle him after the burp or I wind up with spit up all over me, him, and the couch. Daddy has convinced him that he can burp bent over, with the burp cloth cupped like a bucket. He does great for Daddy when he burps him that way ... BUT when MOMMY tries it? He holds in the burp until he gets a stomach ache, and I run out of patience and give up. As soon as I put him back on the shoulder he burps right away ... and spits all over me. He then smiles with relief (or satisfaction!), and Mommy puts him down to go change her shirt ... :)

Here he is burping the way that only Daddy can ...


Benjamin's First Swimming Adventure

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So, we fail as parents at getting video of Benny's first swim. We have some pictures that Grammy took and some video from before and after ... And I must say the before video is quite hilarious. So, we'll work on future videos of him as he swims. :) Benny's Getting Ready Video Benny's First Swim

My favorite Getting Ready Photo

In the Pool with Daddy

Benny with Grandpa in the Lake

Just for the sake of MY remembering it, I want to record Ben's stats from his 2 month checkup: Height: 24 1/2" Weight: 14.1 lbs. Head Circumference: 42 cm Notes: Working on more tummy time to eliminate the "flat parts" on his head (He LOVES turning to his right and never his left), Get rid of this persistent thrush with another two weeks of antibiotics, continue working on his head/neck control which is getting quite a bit steadier! Enjoy his laughter and smiles.


The Naming Game ...

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I realized that I have never elaborated on this blog about how and why we came about the names we did for our children. Since I was a sophomore in high school and my 10A English teacher asked us to introduce ourselves, explaining WHY we were named the way were, I wanted to make sure I had a sufficient answer if I was ever asked about my future children. This made the naming process quite a bit more difficult, since I wanted significance to the name and Steve wanted it to sound good. (That makes him sound shallow, and he wasn't, he just wasn't going to settle for anything "weird"). Let's begin with the firstborn, shall we? (I'll elaborate only on the name we used, not the name we discarded because we didn't know she was a girl).

We actually had begun with the middle name Christine (using something from Mommy for a girl). But, when Steve's grandma, Harriet Elaine, was diagnosed with a cancer that would likely be fatal (putting her estimated time on Earth too short to meet her first great grandchild), we wanted to use her name. She always went by Elaine, even though her first name was Harriet. SO, we decided that our baby girl would carry Great Grandma Van Dyk's name, Elaine. I was doubly pleased because Elaine meant "light." What baby girl would be a "light" to her parents, and hopefully, a "light" to this dark work.

We then set about choosing a first name ...  I liked derivatives of Katie because Katie meant "pure." Also some thing we pray daily for in our little daughter. When we knew "light" would be the middle meaning, the two combined was set in stone, our baby would be "Pure light." HOWEVER, I had a co-worker who had used Katelyn, and another colleague who had a Katherine, so I took a few liberties and jumped to Kaylee. Kaylee was in the top 20 names and I knew quite a few little Kaylee's in my classes. BUT then I remembered my first "babysitting" charge. I think today you'd call me a "Mother's helper." Her parents named her Kaleigh Rose. I spent many days playing with her, and believe my desire to be a mother was fostered by those experiences. So, KaYleigh, it became. And that, dear blogger friends, is how we came up with Kayleigh Elaine. I think she looks like a "pure light," don't you?

AHHH now, the little man ... Benjamin Steven was much more difficult to determine. We, again, started with the middle name (what we are committed to making the "family name"). We knew we wanted something from Daddy's name ... either William or Steven. William is quite prevalent in Steve's family, and it's pretty common in my family as well. It was that ambiguity that kept us from using it ... too many people, not just one person to honor. So, we used Steven, for his Daddy, who, I personally believe, is an excellent model for our son.

After THAT we needed a first name that fit. We wanted something "classic" for a boy (no funny spellings, or gender neutral names). I also was pretty interested in having something Biblical. We went through our Bibles looking at all of the historical origins for Bible names ... And then we remembered Jacob. Jacob had 12 sons to pick from but his favorite two: Joseph and Benjamin, came from his favorite wife, Rachel. Joseph was the oldest and Benjamin the younger. After Joseph was "killed," Jacob treasured his younger son, Benjamin. ** Insert a little backstory: Steve's extended family has only 2 male grandchildren out of 12, so he was pretty certain we'd end up with a house full of girls. However, he asked me, when we were dating if I'd commit to giving him two sons ... he needed two boys to help carry on his family name (he's the last male Van Dyk!!!). I agreed and this little boy was quite a TREASURE to his Daddy. Therefore, this boy is this family's treasured son (long awaited...) So, Benjamin it was ... (To top it off, I had lots of Ben's in my life and all of them were wonderful people).

Benjamin Steven ... Daddy's treasure? I think so.

So, these stories make me curious about other readers ... If you feel like it, comment on my blog with the story of YOU or YOUR children came into their names.


Life Changes Things ...

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Yeah, the title's not a typo ... I am not blogging about the changes in my kids or even growing up, but stopping to reflect on how life's circumstances have changed me. I was sort of slapped in the face recently (no, not by the fact that situps (after my C-section), which used to be the easiest workout I could do, have now become akin to a root canal) by the magnitude of change that has occurred in my life in the last 10 years. I'm positive that some of the friends I believed were life long buddies would look at me today and chuckle ... "Wow, she never did anything." Or "REALLY? That's what she's doing? I wonder what her story is ..." And you know what? The 18 year old version of myself might say the same thing to the 28 year old version ... "What HAPPENED to your ambition?" I think my answer would be ... Life changes things ... Let's look at some of the changes in my life that make me MOST proud.

(1). THEN: My favorite day each semester was the first day of class ... do you know why? We got our syllabi ... I would greedily begin (even before class was over) plotting out just when I'd complete those assignments. I'd place them, meticulously in my Palm as actual dates with time brackets so that I couldn't schedule anything over them (invariably I would anyway, but it was the PLANNING that I loved). I'd color code them to match each category (MAJOR, MINOR, ELECTIVE, REQUIREMENT) ... I also color coded my extra curriculars, my jobs (I had 4), and my social events (they were often not scheduled) ... NEVERTHELESS, there wasn't a day in my collegiate life that wasn't scripted, planned and scheduled. I'm pretty positive that's the only way I could smash in the insane number of activities I chose to do. NOW: I TRY to schedule things in my life (AKA Monday is laundry day, Tuesday is vacuuming and cleaning, etc) but more often than not the kids have a mind of their own. Laundry day becomes whenever I have 15 minutes free and cleaning happens when we're having company and it needs to ... About the only thing that must stay scheduled are the doctors appointments and the playdates ... I'm pretty positive most anyone who knew me (including my own father) would assume this lifestyle would drive me insane. I'll admit sometimes, I long for the pre-planned days, the scripted lifestyle ... but I'm learning to appreciate the spontaneity that babies bring :) ... Would I change? NOT ON YOUR LIFE.

2). THEN: I was NEVER satisfied to sit at my apartment and hang out. As my roommates will verify, I spent far more time away than I ever did at home ... and 95% of the time spent at home was eating or sleeping ... This on the go, always active, constantly moving lifestyle might have been preparation for chasing my two babies, but it's what gave me joy. I LOVED being busy and was never happy unless that was the case! NOW:  The things that bring me the most joy are things that are largely slow moving, relaxing, and allow time for reflection. Among my favorites: A long walk around the block with Benny strapped to my chest and Kayleigh relaxing in the stroller, playing in the park with my daughter, getting a 45 minute power nap while BOTH kids are sleeping at the same time, listening as my daughter explores her vocabulary, watching Benjamin smile and laugh and hold his head. None of those things stem from a life on the go ... It's a quieter pace that brings me joy.

(3). THEN: It's shameful to admit, but a lot of my relationships suffered in college. I was pretty interested in doing THINGS and not investing in PEOPLE. As a result I had TONS of acquaintances but found it difficult to keep up with them as friends ... You see people need time and time was something I didn't have ... I only had stuff ... NOW: People are the most important piece in my life ... most specifically my two little people. They demand my attention, they require that I revisit and follow up with them, and they return my attention with the greatest and most rewarding love I could have imagined. This has taught me a lot about my friendships ... I'm making a more concerted effort follow up, to initiate get togethers, and to PAY ATTENTION to people. It's odd that it doesn't come naturally to me, but I understand the importance and am working to make this central to my life. Hopefully, I'll be able to re-build and sustain some of the friendships that my life choices have "left by the wayside."

(4). THEN: I was always planning for my future ... which course had the professor I needed to get to know. Which summer job would help me establish the proper connections to get ahead, which extra curricular would put me in contact with the MOST people, which organization could I quickly jump to the chairperson position ... All of these were done intentionally, deliberately and with my future resume in mind. I can't say that I ever went so far as to harm anyone else intentionally to get where I wanted to be ... I just worked and worked and worked to get myself into a position to take what I wanted. NOW: While I have day to day and week to week learning goals for my children, I'm not always scheming, planning, and resume building. We're enjoying life ... living in the moment. I only get to watch my little ones grow up once. I don't want to look back and wish that I had spent more time treasuring them. This blog is helping me remember that ... that each day holds something new for these little ones ... and for me as their mommy.

So, at a 10 year reunion would I be where I thought I'd be ... absolutely not. BUT at a 10 year reunion would I be ashamed of where I am ... absolutely not. I consider the changes that God has brought through my life to be the most rewarding and important changes I could make. I trust His plan and look forward to my reflection at age 38 as to how God has continued to unfold His plan in my life.

** Now, off to hang diapers on the line, dress and change the kids, and head to the pediatrician before running the first 3 miles of my 10K training run ... Good bye baby weight.


Lessons in Joy ...

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My little girl is many things, one of which is a teacher to her mommy. I make an attempt to learn something from her even as I'm trying to teach her. A few weeks ago she gave me a doozy of a lesson. Kayleigh learned a new game from Grandpa Van Dyk when we were at the Holland State Park a month ago. Grandpa showed her how to bury things in the sand, namely, feet. She didn't seem to be watching when he taught her then, but she was paying attention. A few weeks later, I was sitting in the grass with feet in playground gravel, enjoying how my active little toddler was running around. Surprisingly, Kayleigh didn't want to be far from Mommy. So she was looking for entertainment nearby. She found it in burying Mommy's tennis shoes in the sand. Since I was wearing my newer Asics (the ones I'm still breaking in from Christmas as much of my third trimester was NOT spent running), I didn't really want my feet buried. As soon as she put the gravel on top of my laces, and turned for another load, I'd turn my foot and dump off the sand. At times it would appear that she noticed her lack of progress; other times she seemed to simply continue plowing away at the task. It was then that I learned my lesson ...

How often do I appear to be making little to no progress on a task? OFTEN ... the 6 loads of laundry that greet me every Monday take forever to diminish; the dishes piled high with baby bottles, sippy cups, and child-size utensils; everything seems to be a constantly revolving task ... Sometimes I get frustrated that it never seems to end ... but not my Kayleigh ... her task (much to my chagrin) gave her as much joy the first time as it did the 200th time (Yeah, I let her keep trying for quite a while ... what can I say? I wanted her tuckered out for bed!).

If we all could find such limitless joy in the mundane tasks that greet us each day ... I think our world would be full of a very different kind of people. ... I think I want to make that my goal, finding joy in all of the little tasks. :)

Here's my joyful child ... simply loving life ... even the things that are mundane :).


Family Photos/Benny's 2 month

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As part of our welcome home party, we had a wedding rehearsal/dinner last night, we have a wedding this afternoon and evening ... So, we need to unpack, grocery shop, shower, and prep the kids for sitters all while getting ready to video the wedding. SO ... super short blog post for today: (You'll have to cut and paste these links into your browser to follow them). Benny's Session: http://tsakanistudios.com/blog/?p=168

Family Session: http://tsakanistudios.com/blog/?p=178

It's a link to our family photo preview from Tsakani Studios. My sister-in-law, Alaina, used her friend, Kristen, for several sessions: pregnancy photos, Ryan's birth, and Ryan's 6 months. Her photos were all so excellent, that we decided to use Kristen for family photos at the beach and Benny's 2 month pics. We were NOT disappointed. Enjoy the previews ... I LOVE THEM!


Home Sweet Home

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Ahhhhh ... Vacation was incredible; it was wonderful to be totally unplugged for a week. Sure, there were inconveniences for both of us. Nevertheless, it was incredible to have NOTHING in the evenings except putting the children to bed, enjoying each other's company and watching the sunset out our slider. One of the results of having no internet was no blogging. So, I have LOTS of backlogged pictures and stories from vacation. I'll be busy catching up for a while :)

I'll begin with a few snapshots from our vacation location. My parents graciously rented us an apartment connected to their friends' cottage. We were right on the channel between Mona Lake and Lake Michigan at Maranatha Bible and Missionary conference in Muskegon. Here's the gorgeous view out of our living room slider ... it was taken at 6:15 a.m., just after Benny woke up. It certainly wasn't difficult to get up when I could enjoy this with my baby boy each morning :)

Just before sunrise on Lake Michigan

Here's my other favorite "landscape" picture ... our view was slightly obstructed mid-week when we had to use the line for drying our jeans. We took pictures IN Lake Michigan ... the babies were celebrating being done with their pictures by heading into the water. So, the parents headed in too ... Here's our family of 4 drying out after picture time.

We had gorgeous weather, wonderful fun and great family time. The kids were busy and happy and slept really well! We couldn't have asked for an easier set up for us .... Thanks Mom and Dad for helping us out .. It was wonderful.

Here's a few other highlights pictures (one from each of us) over the week.

Mommy's Favorite: Spending time with my family

Daddy's Favorite: Spending time with the babies (he got a lot of time with both, but I snapped the best one with Kayleigh)

Kayleigh's Favorite: THE BEACH

Benjamin's Favorite: Water Experiences :) The Pool and the Lake


Mommy-Kayleigh Date

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Steve had a lot of meetings this week, so we were very busy at nights. He was out and about, and I was putting the kids to bed alone. (Something that's manageable, but sometimes difficult after a few days in a row). At any rate, on Wednesday, Steve volunteered to take Benny to his church meeting so that I could have just one child to get through the bedtime routine at a time. I was so excited. Usually Steve takes Kayleigh and leaves me with Benny, so having time alone with my sweet girl was a treasured event. We had been inside all day, so I decided to take her to the park. Again, since I didn't have Benny strapped on, I could walk with her instead of push her in the stroller (She's really begun to resent riding in it because it confines her independent spirit). I took it along anyway because I figured she'd tire out on the 1/4 mile walk to the park in 80+ heat. Apparently, I underestimated my baby girl. Here she is, not only walking the entire way (holding Mommy's hand nicely), but pushing the stroller for me as well.

After we got to the park, she kept me too busy to snap photos. We "flew" on the swings, belly first (something that is MUCH more difficult after two children--thanks Daddy for teaching her that one!), climbed the ladders to the slides, squeezed through tunnels, (Mommy only tried to follower her once on that one .. another reason to keep working hard to lose the baby weight!), and went down the slides together. She had such fun with Mommy joining her (usually I'm just watching because Benny can't climb with us in the Baby Bjorn). After the slides lost their luster (attention span: 15 minutes at most), she grabbed a stray soccer ball and started kicking it in laps around the play set. "Soccer ball, Soccer ball," she'd chant. (I knew better than to think she'd let me coach her on the Varsity tennis team :).) As a conclusion, she decided that the gravelly playground dirt, looked like, "The beach," and she proceeded to bury my feet in the sand. (More on this one in a future post).

When it was time to go, I bribed her with promises of juice and a bath (oohhh she needed it now), and we started home. I forced her to start the first leg of the trip  in the stroller (mostly so we could hurry, but also because she was just SUCH a sweatball).

She got out after a bit and walked cheerfully home. As soon as we hit the doorstep she grabbed a "juice" for Mommy (Gatorade) and tried to put it in the fridge while I got her some apple juice. Then we did our bath routine and she slept 8:00 p.m. - 9:30 a.m. :) That's my baby girl! I'm so thankful to Jesus for the fun he gives us in this little angel. In my wildest dreams, I never would have imagined what a beautiful, intelligent, sweet, creative little girl God could create from within my body. Each time I look at her (okay, probably not during her tantrums) I'm reminded of how incredible my God is ... I am truly blessed.


The electronic babysitter

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When I was preparing to become a mom for the first time, I swore I'd never use television as a babysitter. That my child WOULD NOT watch any program before 2 years old, and that, if he/she did I would sit down and talk through any educational value with him/her as we watched. I had heard too much research on the early effects of television and the brain, that I simply didn't want this for my baby. However, as most resolutions do, reality sets in and you're forced to compromise. My compromise came when Benjamin was born. I did lots of his feedings while Kayleigh was napping/sleeping or playing with Daddy. Yet, there were still time when I had to feed the baby while she was awake. It was difficult for both of us ... she always wanted to share my lap with Ben (not because she's a snuggler but because she was jealous). So I needed something (at least once a day) to keep her occupied while I was occupied :). In a morning of desperation, I flicked on the Disney Channel. The result was instantaneous (though not in the way I expected). She stared into the television, saw her beloved stuffed animal singing and dancing on the screen ... screamed "MICKEY!!!!" and ran to get her toy. After that she stared, mesmerized, at Mickey Mouse Clubhouse while clutching her Mickey doll. (I'd be worried at the blanket staring except that she stares ONLY at Mickey. If it's a Donald Duck or Goofy feature, she's wandering the house again in seconds, only to be brought back whenever she hears that silly mouse's voice).

The 30 minute program brought us both such joy that it's become something of a routine. Eat breakfast, watch Mickey, change dirty diaper, run errands ... :) And each morning (whether she wakes up at 8:00 or 9:30) she expects to see her Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. No amount or reasoning can explain with her the concept of a television programming schedule. ENTER: YouTube. Since Kayleigh really just loves Mickey, if she sleeps through "the clubhouse" we just pop on YouTube and watch a recorded episode ... yesterday she was content to simply cycle through "The Hot Dog song" about 25 times ... If she keeps sleeping in, I'm going to have to find another solution because I can't take too many days of THAT!!!

At any rate, Kayleighs love for Mickey is incredible. Last night we were coming home late from Grand Rapids, at least 2.5 hours past Kayleigh's bed time. Her brother was conked out, but she was too hyped up (playing in the "fountain" with Grandpa and her cousins was just too exciting). Mommy and Daddy needed a few moments of quiet: ENTER: iPhone, YouTube, and Mickey Mouse ... RESULT: Singing, happy baby instead of constant whining.

End result: Mommy can still be vigilant about time spent watching television (it's really the only show she watches), but it's probably okay, for Kayleigh to fall in love with her 1 program :).

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Here she is dancing away to the music on the program ... at least she doesn't sit while she watches :)

Morning Mickey Fix 7-11


Benjamin - 2 months (almost)

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It's time for a feature post on my little man. What a trooper he is. He's been through quite a lot in his little life - I guess that's why those 2nd babies are so easy going - they don't really have a choice, do they? Since delivering him during tennis season, in his short time on earth, he's: - Gone to the State tennis finals - Attended the Tennis team party - Traveled twice to Holland and hung out at the cottage with Ipemas - Spent a week with Grammy and Grandpa, sleeping in the pack n play like champ - And even some other overnighters that I might be forgetting.

Through all of those different stimulating experiences, Ben always held up really well ... except, the week at my parents. I have no idea what made his craziness start but it was heart wrenching. He screamed, shrieking, ear splitting screams for 1+ hour every feeding. It was hard to tell whether his tummy was cramping from the pain or from his anger ... either way, it was so so sad. Since then, we've spent time at the pediatrician's office and on the phone for after hours calls. Aside from working through Benny's  constipation, it would appear he has a sensitive tummy. We're on soy formula now, and he's the happiest I ever remember him being. Last night/this a.m. he had a bm WITHOUT us having to concoct some insane combination of pear juice and Karo syrup. We're almost ready to say, "he's fixed." BUT ... I'm hoping for a week Karo free before doing just that. At any rate, it's hard to believe he isn't better, when he flashes these gorgeous smiles at me (and his sister and his daddy) all day long.

But, since Benjamin's two month birthday is approaching (he's already 8 weeks, but not quite 2 months yet .. Saturday), I thought I'd recap a few of his accomplishments. Some of them, still amaze me.

1. Ben loves sleeping. I might hate myself for making this public, because as soon as I do, he'll stop doing it. BUT, Ben rarely gets up more than 1 time a night. In fact, for the past week (even through his cramping/sickness) he's slept no LESS than 5 hours at a time. He's had 3 straight 8 hour nights, even. I LOVE it ... I feel like I'm getting spoiled rotten. Kayleigh was a good sleeper/napper, but she NEVER did this. Here's to hoping he keeps it up! (Although, as you can tell by my time stamp, he's not doing it tonight!)

2. Ben moves CONSTANTLY. Our friends had a little boy close to Kayleigh's age; he moved ALL the time while she snuggled. We thought it was just his personality, until ... well, Ben. Ben has some of those same constant movement characteristics. He doesn't love to snuggle because it's too restrictive. Instead he just flails his arms all of the time, kicks his legs and rocks from side to side.

3. Ben's head and neck control is incredible ... Since he was born he was FIGHTING to work that part. I think he just wants to get up and look around already. Today, he sat in my lap, while Kayleigh and I did puzzles. He rarely rested his head on my stomach at all, just kept fighting to keep his eyes on his sister the entire time. He also loves pushing his legs straight to stand ... And don't think you're gonna help him relax while he's on his tummy. He looks like a frog swimming through the water as soon as you flip him on his belly ... kick, kick, kick, pull, pull, kick, kick ... it's hilarious.

4. *** This is coincidence, I'm not claiming intentionality here :) *** Ben has managed, repeatedly, to turn on his crib toy all by himself. When he lays in his crib (literally one of his favorite things to do!!), he flails his arms and legs (like always) and bumps the power button, which turns on his water/monkey/fish/light up lullaby viewer. He squeals and stares at it, mesmerized, not moving, until it shuts off (it's on like a 5 minute cycle). Then he begins flailing again until he manages to bump it and turn it on. (Trust me ... I was totally creeped out the first time he did it). It was 6:30 in the morning and I didn't think the babies were up and Steve was in the basement shower .. then ... All of the sudden music floods from the newborns room ... I ran in there, thinking we had a child theif. I was greeted with bright blue eyes, cooing, and a sunny smile ... just my Benjamin accidentally being awesome :)

Ben likes the rocker/vibrating chair as one of his toys (mostly because his sister comes along every 20 minutes or so to kiss him, pat his head, say, "Hi Benny Buddy..." and pull the musical dog. :) She just wants to hear the tunes! At any rate, I am always taking pictures of him in that ... so here's a little comparison.

Benny the afternoon we brought him home.

Benny yesterday (almost 2 months)


She's ahead of her time ...

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Independence is the word of the month for Kayleigh. Perhaps she's feeling the patriotic spirit, perhaps its her age (okay, so definitely her age), but whatever the reason, she does NOT want help. She runs all over the house attempting to do adult-like chores, and she won't accept assistance for any of it. She'd rather complete the chore, to the best of her ability VERY slowly, than let Mommy or Daddy get a hand in edge wise. I usually give her the chance to learn, but sometimes, if it's dangerous or we're in a hurry (hahaha not usually with an 8 week old), I push her. This almost always results in heartbreaking tears - her realizing she just "isn't big enough." :( It's sad for Mommy, and very sad for Kayleigh - already she doesn't like failure. Here are some snapshots of my favorite "independent" moments this past week. Reading: She will grab a book (sometimes her books, sometimes the books Daddy has sitting around), climb into the chair, open it up and start babbling "Apoiiboneoscionew. a;ipqenvoiasdafe. All done." Slam the book and say "More book ..." She will repeat this until she's had enough of reading. Clearly, she's developing the concept that books carry a message! Woo hoo!!! I should add that it's most precious when she gets one of her own books because she'll open it and acknowledge the pictures she knows on the page (or the words she's memorized from reading it so often) in the SAME TONE that Mommy reads them. She's listening to storytime, even if she looks like she isn't :)

Independent Reading

Drinking: Kayleigh loves coffee ... no really, decaf, skinny, no whip, non-fun flavored coffee ... she loves it! She also loves finding the Starbucks that we threw away (or left around the house) and walking around the house with it. She'll be putting a puzzle together, holding a Starbucks cup in the other hand, or she'll be playing with her computer with one hand and her sipping her Starbucks with the other. It's a monkey see-monkey do scenario. Since we had Starbucks to help us combat the late nights of baby-ness, she's grown up with it ... She puts the cup in her hand tilts her head back, drains some if it and says, "Ahhhh." Gotta love how she's ready to be a college student already :)

Independent Coffee Drinking

Cookin': I'm not claiming that what I do in the kitchen to prepare supper is actual cooking. BUT, Kayleigh calls it that. So, each night when it's time to eat, I say, "Would you like to help Mommy cook?" "Yes, help me...." So, she waddles into the kitchen, gets put up on the counter by the espresso machine and starts "cookin." This usually involves pounding the pots and pans with a very serious look on the face, she "pours" imaginary fluids back and forth between the cups, stirs with the tamping spoon, and tastes tests it before calling me over. "Momma? Momma? Mommy? Momma? See???? Cookin? Taste???" So I taste it, pretend its the best dessert I've ever had and say, "Let Daddy try." She waddles over to her father, who always tells her (thanks so much) to go back to Mommy and make some more. She always does .... Here's her, giving her "cookin" a taste test.

Ohh .. Kayleigh. How I love your independence! Keep keepin' me on my toes!


We Love our Daddy …

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I've been absent for a few days in my blogging experience. We were moving in back home, battling some serious issues with Benjamin (now believed to have been a lactase deficiency causing abdominal cramping and constipation, plus painful gas), welcoming Daddy back, and getting ready to move back out to the lake for another week starting Saturday. I know, you don't have to pity me, we have a great life :) (well, except for poor Benjamin's last week ... you can pity him). At any rate, the kids have been showing Daddy some love these past few days. It was clear that they missed him (each in their own way). Since he's been back, he's had a few good moments with each. Kayleigh's I couldn't capture on film, but in words. We were at the grocery store today for some Mommy/Kayleigh time (while Ben and Dad were at home bonding over soy formula); she was insisting on helping me with the bottle return. She is so accustomed to hearing me say, "Would you like to help me?" That she often simply says, "Help me! Help me! Help me!!" when she wants to contribute. (We're working on correcting her use of pronouns as she also points to pictures of herself and says, "You..." :)) At any rate, I let her stuff some of the bottles into the machine and she was hooked. She did all of the bottle returns by herself. As a reward, I went to look for the Honey Maid S'Mores cookies we had at Grammy's last week. We put them in the cart and after hugging them to herself for several minutes, her face softened and she said, "Home ... share Daddy?" We are working on sharing (usually with the kitty, Benjamin or Ryan), and she clearly wanted to practice. She loves her Daddy and wanted him to have her favorite cookies too ... I love my tenderhearted girl.

Daddy and Kayleigh

Benjamin can't show his love for daddy quite as readily, but his smiles returned with a vengeance yesterday. He was especially excited when he heard his daddy's voice. He giggled, cooed, and laughed ... He clearly loves his daddy, even if he doesn't quite know who or what a daddy is.

Benny and Daddy

And Mommy, well, Mommy is glad for the help from Daddy too! But mostly, I get no greater joy than watching my children love their father. It's not everyday that you see a grown man turn into goo for his kids, but Steve's pretty good at that. And his children repay him with their affection!

We're glad you're home, Daddy, and looking forward to our vacation together next week (with a hopefully, happy baby Benny)!


Day 5 – Last night with Grammy and Grandpa

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Ahhh, well, it was a beautiful week … today just happened to be a little on the wet side. Kayleigh still managed to have an amazing day. She went to play group in the morning (and we solved a mystery we’d been having … Kayleigh always seemed to be eating/drinking something when I picked her up, but all the other children had moved on. Today I came and the whole group was watching a Veggie Tales movie and there’s Kayleigh, sitting at the snack tables all alone, eating goldfish and drinking juice, while dancing to the Veggie Tales music … I asked the workers what was going on … “Oh she’s just having seconds … or maybe thirds…” HAHAHA I can hear it all now the rest of the 2 and 3 year olds are fine moving on to a movie while my 19 monther says, “MORE JUICE, MORE CACKERS … MORE JUICE, MORE CACKERS) HAHAHA oh Kayleigh …

After nap time Mommy and Grammy took the kids to the mall, thinking that a little trip out would be good for both. Well, it was fine for Kayleigh but Benjamin just wasn’t settling down (in fact he napped in less than 30 minute stints all day long!!!). We had an early dinner and had some serious fun in the evening. Here’s some pictures and videos detailing our afternoon and evening. I’m being lazy by not journaling it all, but I truly think the pictures/videos say it best (Plus it gives Daddy a chance to see the babies).

Kayleigh shows just how ready she is to go to the beach. Ready for the beach

Grandpa carried her over the dune Kayleigh and Grandpa

Kayleigh played in the sand with her beach toys

And then ran straight into the lake (and got a little scared) and ran back out Running in the Lake

During this whole time, Grammy had Benjamin (beginning his nightly colic session) in the Baby Bjorn to keep him calm.

After her dip, Kayleigh ran around some more. Here’s she turning “the hungry caterpillar” into a slide.

After our trip to the beach, we were too early for bath time. SO Grandpa had another idea. Let’s try a popsicle.

For awhile, Grandpa held it:

I sort of got messy anyway:

Then Kayleigh sort of took charge and ran with it…

Thanks for a great week, Grammy and Grandpa! It was really, really fun.


Daddy Gone – Days 3&4

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Wow, so our days are becoming quite routine out here (fun, but definitely similar to the day before). Nursery play group for Kayleigh in the a.m., naps for both kids (if Ben cooperates) and then pool time. Dinner and some kind of play (either beachin’ it or long walks, or playground) before baths and bed. So, a video for each … and then a little Benjamin update.

Benjamin was so smiley and happy, we had to take video for Daddy. So, here’s a little smiling: Ben’s Smiles 7-7

Kayleigh loved swinging on the swing set facing Lake Michigan … she knows how to say Lake but needs to learn that it’s not just a big “POOOOOL” … We’re working on it :) Here she is watching the “Poooool” and saying hi to Daddy. Kayleigh Swings 7-7

Now for the latest on our little man. Benjamin turned 7 weeks on Monday and decided to celebrate by developing SEVERE colic symptoms. I attributed the first couple of nights to simply “being in a new place.” By last night I was furious, so I called the doctor and was told that it’s most likely colic. I can come in when we’re home next week, but if it IS colic there’s not much we can do. We soothe, and rock, and keep him out of stimulating things late at night. We add gripe water AND we pray that it doesn’t hang on for 6 months, but passes quickly. I’m going to video him when he’s having a fit because I’ve never seen anything like it … Kayleigh would fuss but this is a new kind of insanity! Either way, based upon the doctors recommendations (and that of plenty of other blogger mom’s) I decided that during his fit tonight I’d use the Moby to soothe him. I’d heard it could calm even the fussiest colicky baby … So, in the middle of one of his biggest fits, I swaddled him in the Moby and … wonder of all wonders, he stopped! He gave me a few roars here and there afterwards but compared to the past 3 nights of 3+ hours of screaming, this was heaven on earth. Here’s the evidence … Ben, cashed out, in the Moby … best sight I could ever see at the end of a long day. (Thanks to my parents for all of their patience and support … I was not a pleasant girl these last few days!)

Benjamin (and Mommy) loving the Moby On the plus side, the colic has seemed to wear him out and he’s slept from 11:30 until 5:30 and 9:30 until 5:15 respectively. This makes him adorable and happy and sweet in the morning. Who could believe this face would torture his mommy and grandparents so thoroughly …

Pretending he's always this sweet ... At any rate, it’s past 11:30 and Ben is sleeping. I should rest while he is in case tonight we aren’t as fortunate. …


Daddy Gone – Day 2

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Well last night was rough, to say the least. Little Benjamin wasn’t super interested in resting. Grammy and Kayleigh were up several times too! And EVERYONE in the trailer was up and at ‘em by 6:30 a.m. (YIPEE!!). The good news, Kayleigh managed to catch herself up. The bad news, well, Benji STILL isn’t really interested in sleeping … (here’s to praying for miracles tonight). Somehow, despite the lack of sleeping, we did have quite a bit of fun today. Kayleigh’s highlights: * Watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on Grammy’s MacBook because the Disney Channel changed the schedule on us! * Playing with the 18 month – 3 year olds in the Toddler Nursery from 9:30 – 11:00 * Taking the world’s greatest nap (2.5 hours and having to be awoken) * Being roused from her deep sleep to Mommy saying, “Would you like to go to the pool?” The sleep is already gone from her eyes, “YES!!!!” * Swimming in the pool with Grammy and Mommy * Taking a walk after supper with Grammy and Mommy * Bath time and playing with blocks ….

Benjamin’s highlights: * Snuggle time in Grammy’s bed with Mommy (The ONLY way I could keep him quiet all afternoon) * Chillin’ with Grandpa poolside * Smiling after meals with Grandpa, Mommy and Grammy

Mommy’s highlights: * Watching the kids play at the pool * Having a homemade sugar free mocha this morning (and an unsupervised shower) :) * Lots of exercise * Food prepared and dishes cleaned; including all of Ben’s bottles all without my lifting a finger :) * A 6 oz sirloin from  Logan’s

Pictures I was able to snap:

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K napping with the now obligatory "piwwow"

K napping with the now obligatory "piwwow"

Benji and Grandpa at the pool

Mickey and Kayleigh hanging out before supper